You're Not Failing Because You Don't Care, But Because Nobody Ever Taught You How to Lead.

For the husband who knows something has to change — but doesn't know where to start.

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The Husbands of Valor Intensive is an 8-week, Christ-centered coaching experience for men ready to stop surviving their marriage — and start leading their home the way God designed.

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You're Not Failing Because You Don't Care, But Because Nobody Ever Taught You How to Lead.

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For the husband who knows something has to change — but doesn't know where to start.

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The Husbands of Valor Intensive is an 8-week, Christ-centered coaching experience for men ready to stop surviving their marriage — and start leading their home the way God designed.

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I'm ready to Be That Man

If you've ever thought I don't know what she wants from me anymore — keep reading.

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You're living in the same house but there are miles between you. She seems cold, distant, or constantly frustrated — and nothing you do seems to make a dent. You've tried. You've prayed. You've gone quiet and hoped it would work itself out.

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And slowly wondering to yourself...is this what marriage is going to look like for the next 20-30 years?...Is one of the most defeating things a man can face.

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You're not lazy and you're not indifferent. You love your wife and you love your family.

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But somewhere along the way you lost the playbook. And nobody around you is talking about it, nor do you want burden someone else by talking about 'your problems.'

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There is a real reason things are stuck. And it is not what you think.

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It is not about her. It starts with you — and it ends with you becoming the man God always created you to be.

I know what it feels like to be failing at home no matter how hard you try.

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Janelle and I have been together since 1999 and got married in 2009. Together we run Marriage Ignite and and over the last 17 years I have walked alongside hundreds of men through some of the hardest seasons of their lives.

But I did not start from a place of strength. Not even close. It all started in a night club called The Last Supper Club (true story) so you can imagine where that led...

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That's where this picture comes in...I didn't have a clue on how to lead her.

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We walked through alcohol addiction, infidelity, control, financial devastation, and grief. There was a season where I was showing up to everything in my life — work, responsibilities, obligations — and failing at the one thing that mattered most...OUR HOME.

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No matter how hard I tried, I had no idea to change any of it.

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Then in 2011 I cried out to God and stopped white knuckling my life. I found a mentor who had been through the fire.

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And for the first time I got serious about becoming the man God actually created me to be — not the version I had been improvising on my own.

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That one decision started a domino effect — in me, in my marriage, and in my entire family. And I've spent 17 years helping other men make the same decision.

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If God could rebuild what was broken in me — He can absolutely do it for you.

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Janelle and I have been together since 1999 and got married in 2009. Together we run Marriage Ignite and and over the last 17 years I have walked alongside hundreds of men through some of the hardest seasons of their lives.

But I did not start from a place of strength. Not even close. It all started in a night club called The Last Supper Club (true story) so you can imagine where that led...

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That's where this picture comes in...I didn't have a clue on how to lead her.

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We walked through alcohol addiction, infidelity, control, financial devastation, and grief. There was a season where I was showing up to everything in my life — work, responsibilities, obligations — and failing at the one thing that mattered most.

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OUR HOME.

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No matter how hard I tried, I had no idea to change any of it.

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Then in 2011 I hit rock bottom and cried out to God and stopped white knuckling my life. I found a mentor who had been through the fire.

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And for the first time I got serious about becoming the man God actually created me to be — not the version I had been improvising on my own.

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That one decision started a domino effect — in me, in my marriage, and in my entire family. And I've spent 17 years helping other men make the same decision.

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If God could rebuild what was broken in me — He can absolutely do it for you.

Here's What Shifts When a Man Does This Work.

The man you want to be — and the marriage you are fighting for — is on the other side of this decision.

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Every day you stay in the same patterns the gap gets wider. The distance gets colder. And the window for change gets smaller.

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Are you silently watching your marriage slip away? Are you carrying this alone with no one to talk to? Have you tried everything you know and still feel stuck?

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This was built for you.

Testimonies

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Ron's Story

"We were at the point where everything turned into an argument—poor communication, short tempers, and the stress from finances and business was tearing our marriage apart. This coaching challenged me to stop reacting, deal with my own wounds, and lead with a calmer, stronger mindset. We were given real structure and tools that turned our hardest conversations—especially around money and business—into focused, productive strategy sessions. Now we’re working as a team again, bringing peace and laughter back into our home, and moving forward with clarity, direction, and unity."

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Scott's Story

"After nearly 20 years of marriage, building a business, raising a family, and coming out of a career in military and law enforcement, I knew I needed more—but I didn’t know what was missing. Saying yes to this coaching gave me clarity on my identity, my values, and the kind of man, husband, and leader I was actually called to be. I was given real tools to lead my marriage, grow my business, and push through challenges with confidence, while being sharpened and held accountable alongside other men. This didn’t just change my mindset—it changed the direction of my marriage, my family, and my future."

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Josiah's Story

"We got to a place where we loved each other, but honestly felt like we weren’t right for each other anymore—walking on eggshells, battling anxiety, and slowly drifting apart. Investing in this coaching forced me to stop blaming and start working on my own heart and my relationship with God, and that changed everything. As I grew, our communication, connection, and trust came back—our marriage got stronger, our home got lighter, and even our intimacy was restored. Now we’re not just surviving—we’re leading our marriage with vision, peace, and confidence again."

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Brady's Story

"After 18 years of marriage, raising kids, and both working full-time, we realized we had drifted—poor communication, no real connection, and barely making time for each other. This coaching helped me slow down, understand my wife better, and start leading our conversations instead of avoiding them. We began prioritizing our marriage again with intentional time, better communication, and a clear vision for our family. Now our connection is stronger than ever, our communication is the best it’s been, and we’re moving toward a future we’re actually excited about together."

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Mike's Story

"We've been 33 years and we hit a point of deep disconnect—constant arguments, lack of respect, spiritual distance, and feeling more like opponents than a team. This coaching forced me to take a hard look at my own heart, deal with past wounds, and step back into my role as a spiritual leader with humility and clarity. As we applied what we learned, we experienced real breakthroughs—restored communication, forgiveness, unity in our faith, and peace in our home again. What felt like it was falling apart has now become a marriage marked by hope, strength, and a renewed sense of purpose together."

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Scott's Story

"We had a 'good' relationship—but we knew God had more for us, especially in how we communicated. This coaching helped me understand my wife better, communicate about everything, and lead our marriage with more clarity and intention. We were also guided through real life challenges, including grief and forgiveness, in a way that brought deeper healing and unity. Now we’re not settling for “good”—we’re pursuing God’s best for our marriage with purpose and commitment...after 37 years we've never wanted to stop growing and we never will!"

Here's what's included — and what it's worth.

  • Three private 1-on-1 coaching sessions with me ($1,100 value) — One at the start, one at the midpoint, one at the finish. These are your personal sessions where we get into your specific situation — your marriage, your patterns, your breakthrough. You're not just another guy in a program. You get direct access to me.

  • 8 Weekly Live Group Coaching Calls ($1,600 value) Every Wednesday for 8 weeks, you bring your real-life situations and get real answers. No fluff, no theory — just straight, biblical, boots-on-the-ground coaching from a man who has lived this. Miss a session? Every session is recorded so you never fall behind.

  • Full Self-Paced Video Course + Lifetime Access ($1,500 value) Work through the material on your own schedule — no pressure, no deadlines. And this isn't a one-and-done deal. You get lifetime access to the entire Husbands of Valor video library, including anything new we add down the road.

  • Private Band of Brothers Community ($1,000 value) A private group of men who are in the same fight you are. Men who get it — no judgment, no pretending everything's fine. Just real guys doing real work, holding each other accountable and praying each other forward.

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Total value: $5,200+

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Your investment today: $2,997 (USD). That's less than most spend on months of counseling — and without this level of structure, equipping and faith-based, personal support.

Here's everything included in the Husbands of Valor Intensive — and what it's worth.

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  • Three private 1-on-1 coaching sessions with me ($1,100 value) — One at the start, one at the midpoint, one at the finish. These are your personal sessions where we get into your specific situation — your marriage, your patterns, your breakthrough. You're not just another guy in a program. You get direct access to me.

  • 8 Weekly Live Group Coaching Calls ($1,600 value) Every Wednesday for 8 weeks, you bring your real-life situations and get real answers. No fluff, no theory — just straight, biblical, boots-on-the-ground coaching from a man who has lived this. Miss a session? Every session is recorded so you never fall behind.

  • Full Self-Paced Video Course + Lifetime Access ($1,500 value) Work through the material on your own schedule — no pressure, no deadlines. And this isn't a one-and-done deal. You get lifetime access to the entire Husbands of Valor video library, including anything new we add down the road.

  • Private Band of Brothers Community ($1,000 value) A private group of men who are in the same fight you are. Men who get it — no judgment, no pretending everything's fine. Just real guys doing real work, holding each other accountable and praying each other forward.

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Total value: $5,200+

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Your investment today: $2,997 (USD)

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That's less than most spend on months of counseling — and without this level of structure, equipping and faith-based, personal support.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • What’s the weekly time commitment I should expect to carve out for this?

    • About 3 hours per week (max) during our 8-weeks together.  I designed this program so no matter how busy you are, this is easily manageable.

    • Most of my clients are career professionals, business owners, dads and they have a lot on their plate already, so I designed this structure for every guy.

    • Here’s it’s broken down…

      • Weekly live coaching Zooms: 1.25 hours (once a week).

      • Your 3 - 1:1’s (60’s mins each) you schedule when is best for you. We have these scheduled right away in week 1, then week 4 and then in week 8.

      • Training content and videos (pre-recorded in your members site): 1-2 hours (per week). And remember, you’ll have lifetime access to all your video content.

      • The weekly coaching Zooms are recorded so even if you must jump off early or miss one, don’t worry you’ll be able to access the recording later.

  • Are the calls on Zoom? And what time are the weekly Zooms?

    • Yes, we use Zoom so we can see you and build connection. All you need is a computer or phone.

    • You will want to have a journal and pen because you’ll probably take lots of notes.

    • Our live coaching calls are held every Wednesday at 10:00AM PST (AZ GMT TIME). 11am MTN. 12pm CST and 1pm EST. or wherever you may be in the world.

    • What if the Zoom time doesn’t work for me?

    • I totally get it — life is full, especially for husbands and fathers working to provide.

    • And while we know one time won’t work perfectly for everyone, we’ve seen over and over that when something matters — you find a way to make room for it.

    • This is an opportunity to get creative — to carve out space not just for another meeting, but for your breakthrough.

    • And remember — This is only for 8 weeks of your life. Every single call is recorded, so even if you can’t join live, you’ll never miss the support, the strategy, or the encouragement waiting for you.

    • You will book you one on one's however it works for your schedule.

  • How will I be able to communicate with you?

    • There will be many ways to communicate with me.

    • I will be communicating through my private WhatsApp channel, email and the Husbands of Valor WhatsApp group. You will receive a welcome email once you sign up. And if there are any issues you can email us at support@identitypointcoaching.com

  • What happens once I get signed up?

    • You will receive three emails within minutes of signing up from IdentityPointCoaching.com. Please make sure you check your spam folder.

    • The first email is a Welcome Email – With steps on what to do get into the WhatsApp community, a new client questionnaire we have you fill out, and instructions on how to book your first 1 on 1 and how to access the weekly Zoom’s.

    • The second email: Receipt for the transaction.

    • Third email: DocuSign contract which is a client agreement – yes, we have all our clients sign contracts to protect you and us.

    • I promise you will get everything you need in your email. We will also be in touch with you via text as soon as you get started.

  • What makes you different from a counselor or therapist?

    • That’s a great question — and I want to honor counselors and therapists because they play an important role.

    • But here’s what makes me different…

    • I’m not here to just help you process feelings or talk in circles week after week. I’m here to help you heal, grow, and take action that produces real change.

    • I don’t just ask, “How does that make you feel?” I give you biblical wisdom, tools, and proven strategy to move forward.

    • I don’t diagnose or label you — I remind you who you are in Christ and help you walk in your true identity as a godly husband and father.

    • I’m not just trained in theory — I’ve lived this. I’ve walked through alcoholism, the drugs, the betrayal and 27 years of personal growth and healing — and I coach from experience, not just education.

    • And most importantly? I don’t just invite you to heal… I invite the Holy Spirit into the process — because without Him, we’re just doing self-help.

    • This is mentorship. It’s discipleship. It’s a battle plan for breakthrough.

  • What if my wife wants help too?

    • That’s even better — and honestly, that’s my hope. I love it when wives are ready to grow and get support too.

    • But here’s what I want to say: Don’t wait on her. 70% of divorces are initiated by the wife because they tend to think about it long before the husband does. Women don’t leave suddenly… they leave after a long 'internal exit.' We’ve seen it again and again: When a husband takes responsibility for his own healing — it unlocks something powerful in the atmosphere of your home. It shifts dynamics because your wife can begin to relax knowing her husband wants to connect with his inner-self. And yes, it often stirs something inside your wife too. So, if she’s open to help — praise God. I will guide you in how to invite her in later to work directly with my wife, Janelle. But don’t let his timeline delay your transformation. This part starts with you.

    • Email us at support@identitypointcoaching.com if you are both ready now.

  • What if I am the only one fighting for the marriage?

    • Then you fight anyway. That's what men of valor do.

    • If your wife is checked out — emotionally shut down, cold, or just going through the motions — I get it. It's demoralizing. You're showing up and she's not. And after a while, a man starts to wonder why he's even trying.

    • But let me be straight with you — a checked-out wife doesn't mean a dead marriage. It means the enemy is winning right now. And that's exactly why you don't quit.

    • God sees what's happening in your home. He knows the weight you're carrying. And He's not calling you to wait around until she decides to show up. He's calling you to lead — even when it's hard, even when it's thankless, even when she's not responding yet.

    • That's the job. And it's not easy. But it's yours.

    • This program will equip you to stay steady under pressure, lead without losing your cool, and become the kind of man whose presence alone starts to shift the atmosphere of his home.

    • You don't have to beg. You don't have to chase. You don't have to perform for her approval.

    • You just have to become the man God made you to be — and trust Him with the rest.

    • That's where your power is. And that's exactly what we're going to build.

  • What if we’re separated?

    • Then this is exactly where you need to be.

    • Separation feels like the end. But I've seen God do some of His best work in the middle of it — because when everything else is stripped away, a man finally gets serious about becoming who God called him to be.

    • Don't count yourself out. God hasn't.

    • Separation doesn't disqualify you from breakthrough. If anything, it creates the space for the kind of deep, real transformation that surface-level fixes never produce. The noise is gone. The distractions are gone. Now it's just you, God, and the work.

    • The same God who parted seas, raised the dead, and softened the hearts of kings is not intimidated by your current living situation. He is not limited by distance, legal paperwork, or how far things have gone.

    • But here's the truth — He's not waiting on her. He's waiting on you.

    • Your obedience right now matters. The work you do on yourself right now matters. The man you become in this season is either going to give your marriage a fighting chance — or give you the strength and clarity to walk forward with peace no matter what happens.

    • Either way, you win by doing the work.

    • Don't let the word "separated" steal your fight. It might be the very space where God writes the most powerful chapter of your story.

    • But that chapter doesn't write itself. It starts with one decision — to stop waiting and start becoming.

  • Will I get feedback on what’s happening in my specific marriage?

    • Absolutely — and that's what makes this different.

    • This isn't a course you buy and grind through alone. You're going to have direct access to me — a coach who will look you in the eye, tell you the truth, and help you navigate whatever you're facing in real time.

    • Here's exactly how that works:

    • Every Wednesday for 8 weeks you're on a live call with me. You bring your real situations — what happened this week, what you're struggling with, what you don't understand — and we work through it together. No canned answers. No generic advice. Real feedback for real men.

    • Your three private 1-on-1 sessions are where we go even deeper. This is where we get into your specific marriage, your specific patterns, and what's actually holding you back. These sessions alone are worth the entire investment.

    • And inside the private Husbands of Valor community, you've got a band of brothers who are in the same fight. Men who aren't going to judge you or give you empty encouragement — men who are going to tell you the truth and have your back.

    • You are never navigating this alone.

    • You'll have coaching, community, and a proven game plan — every single step of the way.

  • How long is it going to take to save my marriage?

    • That’s a great question — and one I hear a lot. The truth is: every marriage is different, and there’s no exact timeline.

    • But here's what I can tell you: Change can begin immediately — in your heart, your mindset, and your atmosphere — the moment you decide to show up differently.

    • If you’re committed to this journey — and you’re willing to do the work with support, wisdom, and God’s leading — restoration isn’t just possible… it’s inevitable.

    • So instead of asking “How long will it take?” Start asking: “Am I willing to begin today?”

    • Because your yes… is what unlocks the healing.

    • And one last thing I don’t know if your marriage will be saved but here's what I do know is that you will be able to lay your head down at night and know that you tried everything.

  • What makes the Husbands of Valor Intensive different from other programs?

    • Most marriage programs hand you a list of communication tips and conflict resolution techniques. And maybe they help for a little while. But they don't go deep enough to actually change you — and that's why most men end up right back where they started.

    • The Husbands of Valor Intensive is built differently. We're not here to teach you how to manage your marriage better. We're here to transform the man inside it.

    • Here's what sets this apart:

    • Faith-based, not just psychology — Everything we do is rooted in biblical truth. We're not just drawing from theory or self-help principles. We're building on the Word of God because that's the only foundation that actually holds.

    • Emotionally strategic — We help you understand what's driving your reactions, identify the triggers that keep you stuck, and rewire the unhealthy patterns you've been running on for years without even knowing it.

    • Spirit-led — We don't just hand you tools and send you on your way. Prayer, discernment, and Holy Spirit insight are built into every step of this process. Because without Him, we're just muscling through on our own.

    • Highly personal — You get three private 1-on-1 sessions with me plus live weekly group coaching where real men get real answers to real situations. You are never just a face in a crowd here.

    • Identity-focused — We don't just tell you what to do differently. We help you become who God actually created you to be — grounded, confident, and clear on your purpose as a man, husband, and father.

    • And here's the most important thing: You don't need your wife to be on board for this to work. You don't need her blessing, her participation, or her agreement. We start with you. And we let God handle the rest.

  • Will this work for me?

    • Here’s the truth… I don’t know.

    • Truly, because I don’t know if you’ll do the work, and allow God to do the work within you.

    • But here’s what I do know…you will be a different person on the other side of everything we will do together.

    • And when you change, everything around you changes.

    • I can’t make any promises because ALL of this will be up to your efforts and your commitment to seeing this through.

    • And what I also know is that you can’t keep living like this and something needs to radically change.

    • And that change has to begin with you.

  • How is The Husbands of Valor Intensive different then The Anchored Husband Course?

    • The Anchored Husband course is a self-paced program with pre-recorded video lessons and practical tools you can start anytime, while the Husbands of Valor Intensive includes getting coached by Mike, different videos you watch weekly, weekly group coaching Zooms, one-on-one support, and personalized guidance to help you with your specific needs in your marriage.

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